5 Ways to Know You Married the Right Woman

By He Writes

 

Some of you might not know it, but today marks my 5 year anniversary to Marie.  In honor of her us, me, I give you:

5 Ways to Know You Married the Right Woman

 

  1. She Makes Delicious Food – I don’t know if you’re familiar with Eastern European cuisine, but it’s not the same as in the States.  It’s not bad, by any means, but there are a few dishes that I wouldn’t offer my friends 😉  Cooking 3 meals a day for 4 people isn’t easy by any stretch of the imagination.  Now do it gluten-free (except for me), with products whose ingredients you can’t read, and in an extremely small kitchen.  On top of that, it’s good – every time!  I think she’s either some kind of conjurer of good food or she puts crack in all our meals…
  2. She Attracts Your Eye – I’m not going to get all graphic and weird on this blog, but let me just say it simply.  My wife is smokin’ hot.  Sometimes, like every woman, she struggles with her self image.  When this happens, I gently reassure her that she’s full of crap and/or has been ingesting too much of the aforementioned crack.
  3. She Rears the Children Well – I’m not implying that she does it alone.  Seriously, guys, if you think raising a family is “women’s work” then you need to wake up.  What I am saying is that you never have to worry about her methods.  When she has the kids, you’re confident she’ll make the right decisions, every time.  You trust her in that.  I do.
  4. She Inspires with Her Words – I’m not saying you have to be married to a professional poet or something.  It’s not like I wake up every morning and she’s crafted a new Maya-Angelou-ish quote for me.  I mean that she builds me up and doesn’t tear me down.
  5. She Empowers Your Dreams – I’ve had a desire for a long time to be in ministry.  In 2009, when I thought it was time to leave the great job I had at a pharmaceutical company, she was all for it.  We knew it would be a significant lifestyle change.  When we had been planning to come to Moldova, she was supportive the whole time we prepared.  And even now, as I’m working on pet projects and being a better man, my wife empowers and supports me.

God knew what He was doing when He put the two of us together.  Life is never easy, but it’s easier knowing that we’re together through it.

 

Happy Anniversary, Marie,

 

I love you!

The In-Laws

By He Writes

I need to confess up front: I consider this my wife’s blog, but she consistently reminds me that it is “our family blog.”  At which point I typically ignore her.  The last time she reminded me she nonchalantly threw in there “but you don’t treat it like it is…”  Which is true.  So, instead of trying to keep my writing to my blog (shameless plug), I decided to write a little something on our blog 🙂

If you didn’t know, we’ve spent the last few months (since October) living with Marie’s parents in Northern California.  (Of course, if you didn’t know that, then you probably don’t know us very well and that makes me curious as to why you’re reading our family blog…)  I’ve been asked how it’s been, living with my in-laws.  Allow this post to be the answer to that question.

It hasn’t always been easy.  I mean, how would you like to live across the hallway from your in-laws with your 4-7 month old baby in your room with you?  There have been times when communication has been…difficult.  But I don’t suppose that will get any easier as my own kids get older.

HOWEVER, as far as living in someone else’s house goes – I don’t think it could have been better.  Danny and Bonnie have been more than gracious in their hospitality.  Danny has helped me with issues with our car, as well as hooking us up with some sweet deals on tires.  Bonnie has been awesome with helping with the kids as well as keeping the fridge properly stocked 🙂  Oh yeah – and the ultimate bonus – we had free babysitting almost whenever we wanted.

So, Klein family, thank you for your hospitality and generosity.  We love you much, and you will be missed.

Love,

Your nose-picking Son-in-law.

An Emissary of Grace

By He Writes

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Mat 25:23 ESV – His master said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.’

I found out this morning that my best friend’s father-in-law passed away last night.  I didn’t know Henry very well.  I had met him a few times in passing, and back in 2005, he invited me along with his whole family on a 3-day cruise to Ensenada.  During the few times I spent with him, and from what his kids have shared, I know a few things about Henry Anadon:
 

  • He was a talented musician.  Although, from what I hear, “talented” is too tame a word.  “Magical” is probably better.  I experienced Henry’s musical talent in church one time, but I know others who have had the privileged to be overwhelmed on many occasions.   He wasn’t a musician; he was a leader of men and women into worship of the Most Holy King. 
  • He was a good father.  I say this because I had a chance to meet all of his kids on that cruise, and what was interesting amazing is that all of his kids love him.  This is a man who has a large family.  I don’t even remember how many kids were technically “his” and how many married in, but I know it was a boat load of people!  (Not literally.  I mean, there were a lot of us, but it wasn’t ONLY us on the cruise…)  It’s rare in this day and age to have such a large family with such a large spread of ages (~20 years) and actually be in harmony with one another.  It was mind-boggling actually.  He wasn’t just a father; he was the kind of man the movie “Courageous” was modeled after. 
  • He was an emissary of grace.  What do I mean?  I don’t know his life story, but I can assure you it wasn’t all music and good fathering.  He had triumphs and failures; good times and bad.  Henry wasn’t a superman; he was a man.  He made mistakes, just like all of us, and I’m sure that some of them were painful and destructive.  But Henry knew something that not everyone knows: Jesus saves those of us who don’t deserve it.  His music was a tribute to a King who accepted a man who had failed.  His fatherhood was to glorify a God who had adopted and parented a broken boy.  Henry brought this idea of grace, God’s unearned favor, to people who met him, heard him play, and lived under his roof.  He was a messenger, an emissary, of our God’s grace. 
 Like I mentioned, I didn’t know Henry very well, but I’ve seen his legacy, and grace is written all over it.  Today, the world is a little less musical.  Today, there are some amazing people that are grieving their father. Today, the world lost a man who lived his life telling others about the grace of Jesus Christ.  We are worse off now than we were before the cancer hit.
 
But Henry isn’t.  Yes, he dealt with pain.  He fought his way through some of the misery of this broken world.  While a cynic might think he’s “no longer in pain,” they would be missing the penultimate purpose of Henry’s life.  He lived to show his kids the grace that Jesus Christ saves the un-savable.  He played music so that the world would hear that God loves them and wants them to come to Him.  Henry lived his life to tell people that God is real, and that He loves.  So, is his pain gone?  Yes.  But it’s much more than just the alleviation of pain.
 
Henry took his last breath here and subsequently took his first breath in the presence of Jesus.  This is not a myth; it’s his reality.  The person he looked to throughout his life, in good times and bad, while practicing alone or playing in front of a crowd, is now staring into his eyes.  Life in heaven isn’t floating around on clouds playing a harp; it’s living life to the fullest.  Henry used his life to point people to God.  The talents that he was given for his time here on Earth were used for God, so when he woke up and looked into His Jesus’ eyes, he heard, “Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.”
 
I don’t think it’s too far-fetched to think that Henry is leading worship in heaven right now.  He’s playing to his heart’s content and showing other, less musically-inclined souls a better way to worship the God of grace.  What he did while he was on Earth was only the beginning.  If you are part of Henry’s family, then please know that I’m sorry for your loss, and I am praying for God’s comfort for you.  Don’t forget what he lived for, and if we really listened to what Henry was trying to tell us, in word and in music, then we will see him again.  And it will be a glorious day!  All because of God’s grace.
 
In memory of Henry Anadon.  Musician, Father, Emissary of Grace.